one is NOT the lonliness number

I get good grades in school, I'm passionate about life, I pay my rent and bills on time, I'm funny, smart and not unattractive. I am, however, single and I don't see that as a bad thing.

I am not trying to add another notch in the whole "single v relationship' argument- if there even is an argument- being single is not as bad as those relationship people make it out to be.

So you're not having sex.... big deal, you're not going to die.

So you don't have a bf/gf to cuddle with... you also don't have one to fight with.

So you're alone.... you're alone with yourself which allows you to know yourself better.

Getting to know myself is probably my favorite part of being single. I do not think I would have been able to make the emotional strives that I have if I was actually in a relationship. I have realized how strong I am without having an ultimate crutch. I have been hurt and manipulated but had the advantage of walking away without the sentimental attachment. Life hasn't always been too easy and I have had a number of flings along the way but nothing too detrimental that I could not just walk away from it with just an emotional bruise.

Maybe I will find that special guy one day, but whether its today, tomorrow, next month, next year or in 5 years: I know I'll be okay.